Stress Remover Needed: Inquire Within

Desperately seeking someone experienced to remove excess stress from my shaking, sweating, hurting body and brain.  Overload is imminent, must be able to start immediately, work on demand and on call 24/7. Pay will be based on level of sanity and peace achieved.

Inquire within: This actually means I must inquire within, because I now know that nothing external is able to do this for me. No amount of food, alcohol, sleep, exercise, etc can remove this stress. I must do it myself, and it takes time.

How do I know I am stressed?

Physical symptoms: IBS and indigestion, acid reflux, too hungry at times, not hungry at other times, too sleepy at times, not sleepy at other times, headaches, annoying cracking sores on the corners of my lips (not cold sores, though I do get those at times too), deep dark circles around my eyes, itchy skin, twitchy legs, crushing pain in my legs (stress makes my spinal cord injury worse), racing pulse

Mental symptoms: irritable (ok-general foul mooded pissiness – I don’t mess about being slightly irritable), foggy brain, difficulty concentrating-especially reading instructions or listening to others talk, obsessive-type pre-worrying about events that will likely never happen but my brain tells me they are possible, real-life avoidance through books, TV and computer games, this feeling like I want to give up or wish for cancer or some way out of life-that life is too hard and just not worth living (I am not suicidal or completely depressed, but my thoughts involuntarily turn this direction when stressed)

Why am I stressed?

Let’s look at the summer events.

Visit from A-hole creepy inlaw that makes me feel unsafe and sexually harrassed

Youngest son in the ER twice! In May he had severe croup and I rushed him there not breathing. This past weekend he had an episode of severe vomiting (unknown cause) and suffered severe dehydration requiring IV and overnight stay.

My dog nearly died in May. I had flashbacks of my childhood dog my psychopathic father poisoned.

My cat died in June. Although he was 18, his death was unexpected, happened so quickly when I was still worried about the dog. He died on the way to the emergency vet, guessing kidney failure from old age. We had a tearful funeral with him with the kids. They sweetly picked flowers and all said goodbye. The sensitive child really struggled – cried hysterically and needed lots of support the following days. I remained strong – somehow. Though they did see me cry, we all cried together for kitty.

Hubby’s schedule changed at work, causing many pre-scheduled calendar events to need changed. Many phone calls.

Refinanced house. This was a good thing, but process was stressful with decisions, and very stressful that closer wanted to come to my house. I hate strangers in my house.

I was named as a lead on an important project for our company, demanding time/precision/quick thinking/strong leadership. I did it, and was successful. This was very positive, but even good stress is still stress – as I now know all to well.

My supervisor went on vacation and I had to take her place in many meetings – again I found it exciting and loved it, but all in all it was just another stress.

Keeping kids busy during summer while I work from home is challenging and a constant drain.

Mother’s Day and Father’s day Suck Rotten Eggs and should be removed from the calendar.

Hubby got a tick bite, I had to remove the icky creature, and now we are watching that red mark to see if a rash spreads.

My brother that took in my abusive father has had a mental breakdown and lost his job. He is in therapy. His new girlfriend comes with her own baggage, and they needed to drive many states away to rescue a kidnapped son from her Ex that was trying to avoid the custody agreement. Luckily the boy is OK, but now my brother has yet someone else living in his house – with my father.

And to top off the creepiness, all my mom could say about this 14 yr old boy was how handsome and good looking he was. Ewww! I get shivers thinking she is a bit creepy too, and how she must have enabled my father to hurt me for so many years. I have not thought a 14 yr old was handsome since maybe I was 18. I taught 14 yr olds when I got out of college at 21 and guess what, they looked like boys, not handsome young men.

What am I going to do with this stress?

I have an evening to myself. (Thanks to Hubby and Grandma) A precious few hours to work on this snowballing situation.

Step 1: Blog. Vent. Brain dump. Pour it all into writing without worrying what the computer or readers might think. Let it all out. Whine, pout, fuss until I can’t find any more complaints.

Step 2: Draw. I have an art exhibition coming up later this week and I’d like to plan and practice my composition. I will be drawing live in front of hundreds of people at a festival. This does not make me nervous, I love performing and listening to everyone as they walk by and say “oohh look at that one”

Step 3: Walk. Attempt to run. Although my leg is stronger, so much stronger, I can’t do anything that resembles a run or even a jog. I will set my treadmill to slow/warm-up and go as fast as I can for as long as I can.

Step 4: Shower. Then jammies.

Step 5: Mindless TV. Snack. (hopefully healthy, or partially healthy, but no pressure)

Step 6: Sleep. Hopefully dreamless and restful. (I doubt this, but again, no pressure)


Any other ideas? Step 1 is done, so I’m off to do step 2.



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9 thoughts on “Stress Remover Needed: Inquire Within

  1. Best stress remover I’ve ever come across are Bach Flower Remedies. I’m never far away from my kit. It would certainly be worth your while looking into them. They may change you life, and in a safe, gentle, non addictive way.

  2. I’m impressed. You’ve mapped it all out. Recognized the stress and accepted it, no matter where it came from, good or bad. Congratulations on the successes!! Whoohoo! Sorry about the creepy factors. I admit that I’ve been surprised by how stressful the creepiness factor is. Glad son is okay. So sorry to hear about kitty. Even when it’s expected, it’s still difficult. You sound pretty healthy overall, as in recognizing problems, dealing with them, and accepting yourself, what went well and what didn’t. The only thing I’d add to the list is prayer. I’m starting to choose music over TV. Having said that, I have a “date” with NCIS shortly. You are doing great! GO YOU! Praying for peace of mind and heart and strength to keep going.

    • Thank you for listening to all my worries! Prayer and music definitely have a place for stress removal, thanks for adding those. I have all these plans in place like this now. Working on being proactive rather than reactive, and it seems to be helping to make life more manageable.

  3. Because you asked for other ideas, I will share with you.
    Breathe! I know, I know some new age bullshit. But Tibetan monks have been doing it for years. I have found the most relief by doing what some call holotropic breath work. I dont.
    I do breath work therapy with my buddy the leprechaun 2-3 days a week for 3 hours at a time.
    i am not saying it makes me sane, but I am telling you when I can breathe deeply, rhythymically, for a long time, I get out of my fucking MIND.
    My MiND wants me to die, die alone, and hate everyone for abandoning me, (even though I isolate)
    So dear friend, I hope I could be of help.
    Best wishes and a prayer sent your way.

    • Thank you for sharing! I’m so happy you have found something that works for you. I’ve never had much success with breathing therapy and can’t imagine trying it for 3 hours or my mind ever calming down – but it sounds wonderful! I may have to give it another go sometime. I am aware that I often hold my breath when thinking or stressed or making decisions or angry or fearful. I hold everything still and tense, including lungs, so definitely something to work on. Probably leftover from trying to make myself invisible or disappear for so many years. And don’t worry, I’m not looking to become sane, just less stressed 🙂

      • honey,
        I didnt mislead you into thinking i have acheived any semblance of sanity measured by this world did I?
        I just want to not be in angst all the time.

  4. I think you might be doing better than you give yourself credit for, you are identifying those things that contribute to your stress, good and bad. One thing I have always done is set aside time for things that are just for me, things that give me space and guilt free relaxation. Even if this time is simply 15 minutes at the beginning and end of each day, set that time aside for just you, no interuptions.

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